Chastity that's really focused on denial

My wife (let’s call her Missy) and I are a few months into our Open Door dynamic and chastity setup, and so far it feels like more attention is on me than on her, which wasn’t exactly what I planned. When we began, I expected Missy to receive more attention and way more orgasms compared to before. Our marriage was quickly becoming sexless. While things have improved significantly and she does orgasm more often, I feel the focus has shifted too much toward my pleasure. She really enjoys teasing me and exercising control over what is now her property. In fact, she purchased a locking butt plug harness (by far her favorite toy) and one of her favorite activities is to lock me up while we play competitive video games together. All this time, she plays with the plug and her ‘property’ until I’m a needy mess, then beats me at the game. She has always liked biting, spanking, and scratching me; previously, though, I disliked pain. Now that I am locked in the harness, I love it. Some nights she spends just doing what she loves regarding pain induction, leaving me very horny and wanting more when she goes to bed. I absolutely LOVE all of this, but I also want her to experience more pleasure herself. She knows she can ask for a back or foot rub anywhere at any time, yet rarely does so. I would offer it regularly, but one rule she set is that I must ask permission to touch her, and she almost always declines. We’ve discussed this quite a bit, and she says she is very happy. She loves the control and mentioned even coming while being ‘abused’ by me without my touching her at all. I still feel like she deserves more attention, but should I leave things as they are? After all, she holds the reins here. Yes, I’m enjoying myself greatly, but sometimes it leaves me feeling a bit selfish.