is it harder to deny her an orgasm than to deny myself one?

Just venting a bit.

I’m four days into this lockup, denied my own pleasure, but I’ve experienced in the past that mind-blowing kind of orgasm when my wife has hers.

Yesterday she teased me plenty with hints that I could give her an orgasm. It was denied, but she promised to let me do it later that night. I felt devastated but obedient.

That evening she claimed she was tired; still, she managed to tease me right up to the breaking point before denying me again. However, she did promise that by morning I’d be giving her a good blow job.

This morning though, she changed her mind and said I could only lick her nipples for a short while.

That’s when I slipped up. I know it’s her choice, but after three broken promises, I just said there was no point if it keeps leading to more disappointment. I walked out of the house and headed to work feeling like I was being punished simply for doing what I should.

We’ve talked things over now, but I’m wondering: shouldn’t promises be kept as long as you behave well? Is she finding it harder to give up her orgasms than I find giving mine?

What do you think?

I certainly wouldn’t expect her to feel obligated. It’s entirely her choice.