Chastity device discussions and reviews discussion

So.. I asked my Goddess the big question. Nooo, not that!:p I wanted her take on stepping up to stainless steel chastity gear. Yes, I said it! You lot are probably way ahead of me already, but.. right now I’m rocking a sissy pink Bird Locked (BL) classic with the 40mm ring, which we’ve been using since September 2012.

I brought this up for several reasons. If you’re going to be serious about this lifestyle, you need the real deal, don’t you think? The BL can be defeated easily; I’ve slipped out while sleeping and sometimes even when crouching down. Once it actually popped off while I was on the elliptical at the gym! I felt it slip but managed to catch it before it fell into my shorts. We realized that our current setup just doesn’t work for the gym because of how intense my workouts are.:p Besides chafing after wearing it for a long time, I still think it’s an excellent starter piece. It is tricky to keep clean and dry inside though, especially after using the bathroom thanks to that ball strap. Otherwise, it does its job.

Another reason is that since going into chastity, I’ll admit I’ve cheated because of my selfish sissy urges. I feel absolutely terrible when I do. Lady Jessi tells me to talk to her whenever these thoughts come up and she helps me through them, but often they happen at night while she’s asleep. I NEED something I truly cannot defeat. When I mentioned it, she pointed out that there isn’t much room for growth in my current gear. That is exactly what I’ve been wishing this one would accommodate. Even with the little bit of wiggle room it provides as I start to grow, things continue to expand because of the extra space, which puts quite a strain on my sissy bells and starts cutting off circulation. When I grow, I grow large. And when I’m small, sometimes it’s… laughable! I’ve been amazed myself too!:p With all this in mind, I need some help with sizing.

I measured myself following the instructions on Lori’s website and got these results (± 1/4”): Flaccid Length: 2 3/8” Shaft Diameter behind head: 3 1/4” (divide by 3.14)= 1” Shaft/balls Diameter: 7” (divide by 3.14)= 2 1/4”

My MAIN concern is the spacing between the cage and ring gap. IF I start to grow, if there isn’t enough room, it’ll almost instantly cut off circulation. Ring style? Round or Oval? So far, my experience has only been with round ones. Cage length.. I think the BL Classic has a total sheath length of 3.7 inches (95mm) and an actual sheath length for my clittie of 2.53 inches (65 mm). In my opinion, that’s about half an inch too long. I feel like two inches is just perfect in its flaccid state with zero room for growth. Lady Jessi and I both agree this seems very important. I also believe any urges will quickly subside because it can’t get excited to begin with due to the fit. But again, that darn length between the cage/ring gap is what worries me most. Right now, when I grow, that gap allows for some additional distance/growth as it pushes back into my body if you catch my drift. BTW- I’m uncut so that plays a small role too. Any sizing comments are greatly appreciated! Suggestions on manufacturer and model would be lovely as well. We aren’t really looking to move toward belts or anything pierced at this time, though there is a piercing I’ve seen recently on the underside of the balls with a dangling chain that would be just adorable hooked to my clit. melts