Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hello all, I wanted to drop a note and share how things are going for me as we move forward. Throughout our happy marriage, my wife has casually brought up chastity on several occasions, usually with a playful giggle. I often wondered if she was ‘testing the waters’. Last week, she mentioned it again, so I decided to do some proper research. I discovered there are many aspects of this type of play that really caught my interest, even though not every facet appeals (for instance, I have no wish to dress up or go without sexual contact with her). We had an open discussion and found out it wasn’t about trust for her; she doesn’t want to cut me off sexually either. It’s more about the power dynamic, specifically my wife being able to manage when I can reach release. So, I agreed to give it a shot.

I’m currently wearing a CB-6000 and loving it so far. Apart from taking it out for an hour one morning due to some chafing around the ring at the back, I haven’t removed it otherwise. Erections haven’t been painful (in fact, contrary to what you might expect, they feel more pleasurable because the tightness and ball stretching during arousal seem to make things even firmer). Nor have I woken up in pain overnight. This seems somewhat unusual based on what others say, especially since I appear to be a ‘grower’—I go from looking quite small when flaccid to a respectable 7 inches with good girth when erect. Sexual contact with her has also become much more stimulating; even light kisses can trigger strong reactions, and she enjoys it too. This experience has prompted me to re-evaluate my own sexual outlook, and so far, it’s been very positive for both of us.

To clarify, my wife isn’t a domina. We’re probably best described as switches, with myself usually taking the lead in bed more often than her. You can see this during intimacy—while we’ve become more passion-driven since I started chastity, she is primarily the receiver and likes it that way. However, there are plenty of times when she takes control (we own a strapon which we use occasionally; she loves giving me facial rides from time to time, for example, and comes hard if she makes me go down on her after sex). Since I’ve been locked up, she’s experimented with tease/denial, which is deliciously frustrating and lots of fun for both of us (though neither of us thinks we could sustain it longer than a day or two).

I do wonder if there might be some hidden motives here (although I doubt it seriously); my wife has often brought up the idea of me pleasing another man, just as I’ve mentioned how exciting it would be to watch her with someone else. So I’m wondering if she has cuckold scenarios planned in mind (which frankly sounds fantastic for me—any UK guys who fit the bill are welcome to PM!). However, I don’t think either of us could live that lifestyle full-time like some of you lucky forum members! Neither of us would stick it out in this relationship if one wanted others permanently, but we both think we can enjoy it selectively (to be honest, I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve fantasized about my wife making me suck then fuck a huge dick while sitting on my face). We are too devoted to each other and see additional partners as complementary play rather than establishing a specific denied male/female-led/cuckold dynamic.

Based on what I read, our direction in this play and the dynamics of our relationship seem like quite a change from the norm for chastity play, but we’re definitely enjoying it. It’s still early days, so who knows if we’ll stick with it long-term? Anyway, just wanted to share my story up to now and thank you all here; I read many posts on this site while researching this subject, and they helped a great deal in making the decision to try.