Female led relationships discussion

Has anyone else experienced this, or is it just me in the wrong spot? Lately I feel like I can’t keep up with my husband’s needs and cravings. I try hard to dominate him, but still sense that he holds some control. This makes me feel small and a bit resentful. I want him to voice his feelings, yet when he shares his fantasies, I feel bound to make them reality. Perhaps I’m acting like a child by not wanting to comply—for instance, spanking him just because he asks… I know I should seize the reins, but I’ve never been one who likes being watched, standing center stage with everyone looking at me. Being the KH suits me fine; I just need to overcome my issue with being in charge, I suppose. It’s tricky telling him this because I worry he’ll be truly sad and disappointed when he realizes I don’t share his same passion for the game. He probably reads these threads anyway, so I might as well brace myself. I’m a rather poor Domina, and not in a good way…;) Does anyone have advice on how to straighten this out?