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I love the idea of my wife discovering her husband’s porn and seeing what truly arouses him, then making it real. Guess what happened this weekend? I hear my wife upstairs rearranging things as she moves our daughters’ rooms around. But I hear her in the study, where I hide my box of porn labeled ‘office’. I go upstairs and ask my wife how it’s going and she says, “I found some interesting things in one of the boxes.” It totally caught me off-guard. I didn’t know what to say. In the box I have a collection of DVDs including big tit, strapon and femdom. Also in the box are 2 chastity belts I bought last year when she was out of town. I became interested in chastity last year and decided to buy the belts to see if it is something I would actually be into. I knew talking to my wife about it would probably never happen, but now this! She asked me “What is that thing?” I mumbled about it being something the guy wore as a control thing and that I got it last year and was going to throw it away. I told her she’s not supposed to be snooping around. Our 2 yr old was playing in the room so the discussion went no further. The issue is she didnt find playboys or regular porn. She found chastity belts and I’m not sure she saw the DVDs. It’s been a couple days and not a word has been spoken. I’m not sure what to do?

When you say, "I knew talking to my wife about it would probably never happen", do you mean that you have talked to her about chastity, and she indicated that she isn't going to play along, or that you haven't even talked to her about it? Everybody has fantasies, and if you have not been open with her about what it is you want, you are denying her the opportunity to help make them come true for you. The best approach, IMHO, is to dedicate yourself to finding out what *her* fantasies are, and working to make them come true, without any thought for yourself. It is just human nature; when you give yourself to her, she will want to reciprocate.