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Okay, so where should I begin? Probably with my leaving. At that point in time, there was a lot for me to figure out. My marriage was shaky, the business was struggling, and my sense of self had pretty much fallen apart. I realized that while the chaste lifestyle is definitely an appealing fantasy, it wasn’t really a way we could sustain—at least not how we were attempting it.

I had just started working part-time at my church, and my faith was urging me to leave because things at home were becoming problematic. You see, “they”—whoever they are—claim this lifestyle keeps you disciplined, stops you from watching porn, helps you stay faithful to your wife, and so on endlessly. The issue for me was that none of those claims held true in my case. I used this site as a stepping stone to find other platforms to feed the fantasy. Essentially, these sites were replacing my actual home wife with an idealized version of her, causing me to lose myself, my identity, and ultimately my marriage.

I took some time off, obviously, and am still in the process of setting things right. Some aspects may never be perfectly resolved, I’m sure, but they are what they are, and fortunately, I have a forgiving wife and God on my side.

This break led to several profound realizations. First, my wife does find chastity arousing. For her, it’s simply about me being locked up, her holding the key, and having the power to torment me whenever she wishes. That is all there is to it—no feminization routines, no cuckolding scenarios, no other women getting involved. It wasn’t who we were without the belt, so why adopt it with one? Another issue was my porn addiction. Let’s call a spade a spade. Whether through working at the church or just being in the right place at the right time, I connected with others whose marriages were crumbling under the weight of this multi-billion dollar industry. No, don’t worry, I’m not going to start preaching at you all, but let me say that once I made my wife the center of my fantasy and dropped the rest, I discovered something that had been present all along. Now I get to have my cake and eat it too. Funny how things turned out.

Anyway, there is much more to share about what happened to me, particularly regarding the transformation of who I’ve become thanks to some incredible “coincidences” that were surely ordained by God. Over the last few months, I’ve met so many people and built friendships that my social circle has expanded exponentially.

So…some might wonder why I stopped in and posted all this? Great question. I wish I could give you a spectacular story, but the truth is, I can’t really do that justice right now. You are friends I missed, and if I can help anyone with any of the areas I mentioned above, then excellent. There is great freedom to be found in discovering yourself, rebuilding your marriage, and strengthening your connection with God. For some, this spiritual aspect might not matter as much because it’s tied to belief, but that’s perfectly fine. I would never judge you for it, nor do I expect judgment back. But know that it is through that relationship that I have reclaimed my marriage, which is a gift far greater than I ever hoped for.

As for this belt, well after selling every device we owned, I purchased the CB6000 Chrome because it was versatile, looked like steel, and cost less compared to high-end models. I tried it on and naturally showed my wife, who just smiled and said leave it on for a couple of days so we can see how you handle it then. Of course, I chuckled and thought nothing of it at the time. The funny thing about transformation is that when you aren’t constantly watching porn or chasing down crazy fantasies in your head, you can actually wear these devices for quite some time before really feeling the urge to get out. For me, this period lasted about a week until I finally said, “Hey excuse me? Did you forget something?” A simple laugh was all the response I got, and we had some passionate intimacy after she let me out. We realized then that you can enjoy this lifestyle as long as it feels authentic to your couple dynamic. It will vary for every pair. For us, it doesn’t involve much of the other stuff, though don’t get me wrong—we are both fans of a bit of bondage and play with cuffs and other accessories. LOL

At one point, I was offered the chance to own a Fetish Felix belt-style device but brushed it off initially. On a passing conversation, when my wife realized it wouldn’t cost us much, she said, heck why not? She even insisted that I “had” to get the CS-500 version because she wanted to be able to tease me through the bars—enough talk! So measurements began (about a hundred of them), and the process is underway. I have no idea what will happen next, but she mentioned she has this list called “the forty things to do before I am 40,” and currently only had 39 items on it. Jokingly, I suggested 40 days in lockup since my longest previous stint was only 38—and there you have number 40. However, she is excited because she hopes this won’t be another one of those on-again-off-again devices that truly kill all the fun. From what we’ve read and heard, 40 days could very well happen, and hygiene with the open design shouldn’t be a worry. Time will tell.

Anyway, I hope that answers some questions you might have been asking. As always, feel free to ask me anything. I’ll try to answer as much as I can. However, I have promised my wife that I won’t air our relationship struggles on here too openly. That was a big part of the problem for us without me realizing it initially. It’s hard not to undermine your wife when you come onto this forum and tell everyone everything she is NOT doing to make “my” fantasy happen. Once I truly realized it was about HER, I understood where my mistake lay.