Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

We went over our ‘chastity agreement’ after that first four-week trial and found it had hit all its targets nicely. I was amazed at how affectionate I felt toward my wife, even on the very first day following an orgasm. I couldn’t stop touching her, holding close to me, stroking her hair, and kissing her. This sweet mood continues right up until she surprises me with another release at night, after which it all begins anew in the morning.

But I realized that while locked away, I was missing out on orgasms (not surprising really). I did some math: before our agreement started, my rate of climaxing was about 120 to 130 times a year. If she limited me to just one every two weeks, that would drop to only 26 per annum! I wasn’t sure if I could stick with such low numbers and still keep my sanity intact. We don’t have a Dominant/submissive dynamic; perhaps those who do get extra pleasure from being dominated—something I miss out on—which helps balance the lack of frequent release. Still, it made me think there might be another path. I wanted to feel that frustration and excitement of denial, but I also craved orgasms so I could enjoy the high arousal levels they bring. I needed my cake and eat it too.

I proposed to her that when she gives me permission for an orgasm, it should last for 24 hours rather than just covering a single release event. This way, I can have as many as I want within that window. Then I would go right back into being attentive and loving during the next stretch of denial, not sure how long it will hold before she calls me again. My wife wasn’t thrilled with this idea initially; she thought it was too “regimented” (using her own word). “Well what do you suggest?” I asked. “How should I know? I’m no man myself. Maybe 48 hours would suit us better.” It took less than a moment for me to agree.

So now we have settled on trying this new arrangement for the next three months, alternating between periods of denial lasting up to two weeks and 48-hour windows where I feast on orgasms. I’ll keep you updated on how things go for us. I know well that this differs quite a bit from what most members here prefer, but as someone once told me regarding my posts, “what works for both of you” is the real measure.