Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I’ve made it my mission to keep an open diary of our latest venture—keeping me on continuous permanent denial using the technique of rubber banding my member. My wife hasn’t ever been particularly keen on tools, gear, restraints, piercings, or chastity devices. That said, she has been quite open to experimentation, working alongside me to find a hassle-free solution for her goal: keeping me permanently denied without any cumming at all—permanently. She likes it this way, and I am very lucky to be permitted to live by these rules. I’ve become a better husband, a more passionate lover/pleaser, and I truly love watching her blossom as she explores her libido, sometimes with her girlfriend and part-time sub Anne. We have been living like this for over two years now, and I have been permanently denied since April 2014—and I don’t want it any other way. Still, I would love to give her even more freedom to constrain and use me without relying heavily on gear and routines. She has tried the honor system with me; although I performed admirably, I still couldn’t help seeking attention for my condition, and I guess I overdid rubbing against her lovely body;-);-). Cages were better—for me—they kept things more protected from stimulation—but since I am a grower and nearly 8 inches when erect, the forces were strong. The heavy pressure on the inside of the cage also drew plenty of attention to my condition. On top of that, there was the issue of mobility and flexibility; I struggled going through airports and had issues during sports, etc… Furthermore, cleaning became a problem. Nothing beats a free-hanging cock when it comes to cleaning—and shaving;-) So, to cut it short, we started discussing lowering the sensitivity down there. The first move was removing the sweet spot and frenum, or whatever remained after my previous piercing bonanza, where I played in secrecy before introducing her to the lifestyle. Check out my gallery to see what I mean. This also removed the option of a secure PA-piercing since the PA-hole would be eliminated. The process took only a few days with rubber banding, and because we were on vacation in Spain, I could expose the area to lots of chloride-containing water in the swimming pool or let it get some sun. It healed quickly, and I think that is when my wife realized that further lowering sensitivity might be an attractive route. She experienced how I managed to serve her with PIV for much longer already, now that the frenum and sweet spot were gone. Could there be more of this through some sort of numbing? I know, as does she, about numbing creams etc., but those are applied because some action is about to take place, and their effect doesn’t last long. Her objective is somewhat different. She wants numbing as a general condition that puts no pressure on her to engage in sexual activities with me, so numbing cream and spray are out of the question. Continued…

She came to me during our stay in Spain and told me she had been reading about numbing using rubber bands. Most of it was about castration play—banding the balls—but that wasn't something she could relate to at all. I'm sure none of us wants to see me castrated without having a toy down there. I need it to define myself as a man—HER Man, mentally—and she definitely needs the same and also, of course, the physical part:) I had never really read about it, but I had banded before with rope and such as part of a lonely self-bondage play. And of course we have had times with a pierced cock ring, which is somewhat in the same league, just not with numbness as the objective;-) I read a lot—a LOT—on the subject: all options, tools, and risks, because there ARE RISKS if you take precautions. One source where the s community discusses cock banding: Some of it is pretty far out, but much genuine valuable information remains. Still, there is always the human factor. We all react differently to applying bands around the base of our member for a certain amount of time. She decided to give it a go, and it was so special for us both when she first applied the bands, and we let them stay on for 15 minutes. I will shortly write about my (and somewhat her) experiences with the first couple of bandings, providing detailed information on "risk management," the level of pain, how to handle it during application, and, of course, the results. The level of numbness, the functionality of the numb member—can she still use it for PIV when I can't feel a thing? Finally, I will try my best to describe the emotional changes that seem to occur inside me... She has told me she is monitoring this thread, so no fantasy allowed! LOL! Right now, I have been completely numb for 6 days since my last banding (which lasted 30 minutes), and I expect not to be able to cum even if I tried for at least three more weeks—and before that, I will have been rebanded—LOL! (I was allowed to test the effect—or rather ordered to wank in front of her for about 20 minutes straight, and I never came close to anything). So the circle closes on me, and I am happier than ever.:):):) I really think I finally live up to my promise: All for her pleasures. Look out for the day-by-day diary—and I guess I will post some photos in the coming days.... The introduction took longer than planned, so it is time to take a break from writing. Take Care BlueEyes