Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

It’s been four weeks since I went into lockup, with one release in that time. My wife mentioned she kissed another guy—it really turns me on knowing she gets attention both at the office and out in the evenings. I’ve stepped up my service to her, taking care of chores like cleaning around the house. I even encouraged her to go out for drinks and kiss someone else, which happened as others have confirmed. Now I’m covering all her expenses, including hair appointments and manicures, and I don’t mind one bit. Everything feels different now; there’s a new sense of direction in my life as I stay home and save up for her benefit. We’re both content, and I love her dearly. It would be wonderful if she took me on as a full-time cocked husband. How should I bring it up with her? Does this fit within the chastity lifestyle? For now, I’m just biding my time until release. Do women actually gain something from being coked?