Introductions discussion

I drafted this last Sunday night but for some reason it’s taken me a while to return to the site, so here is my introduction at long last.

Hi everyone. I’m MistressG, your keyholder and wife to @Eillydray. We’ve been together for 7 years and married for 5, with two lovely kids aged 3 and 1. As you can guess, maintaining an active sex life as a vanilla couple with young children is tough work, let alone for us BDSM enthusiasts who enjoy bondage and kink. Over the past few years, we’ve played with all sorts of toys across many sessions. When our first daughter was one year old, we managed to slip away to a local dungeon several times, but keeping that side of our relationship alive has been challenging.

Before Christmas, @Eillydray suggested we try using his CB3000 more often. Honestly, I jumped at the opportunity because I always wanted him to wear it when we first started dating, though he was too self-conscious about wearing it out of the house.

Since then, he has been locked 24/7 with only a few sessions where he was unlocked for no longer than 36 hours to let any soreness heal. I allow him a release roughly once a week, which isn’t much considering he is a serial masturbator (doing it two or three times daily). During this time, my own sex drive has kicked back into gear; I’ve even found myself thinking about sex during the day again, something that had been difficult since becoming a mother.

I have read many welcome messages from other women new to chastity and really relate to them. They talk about trying to be more dominant, remembering to text or tease during the day, building confidence as a mistress, and developing our own ideas for teasing and denying him rather than just adopting his fantasies into reality—which is what I usually do.

I’ve recently been given two books: Male Chastity – The ‘Key’ to a successful female led relationship by Mistress Benay and Fem Dom Training of Submissive Males by Vanessa Chaland. I hope they provide more inspiration, although I have already gathered several ideas just from browsing here over the last few days.

Tonight we decided to begin the black-balled detail in The Play Room with our own adaptations—we are currently waiting for the marbles we ordered to arrive.

I still can’t believe all the benefits I’m seeing in my changed man since he has been chastised. He is more attentive, loving, and motivated to help around the house. He comes to bed with me most nights now, which was always an issue for us. Basically, he is becoming a better man, which makes me love him more and more. As I write this, he is on his knees painting my toenails without being asked……… Who would have thought that four months ago I had a husband who drank too much, came too easily, rarely shared the bed with me, and hardly ever helped out?

I look forward to gaining confidence and ideas here as an outlet for this new part of our relationship. I am loving this little secret we now share between ourselves that no one else knows (except for all you members here now ha ha).

Anyway, I’m off to check if he has been good enough for a quick unlock (and possibly a release tonight) because he keeps complaining about being locked away uncomfortably this morning after returning from his poker night with the guys.