Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Has anyone else been asked to demonstrate their love by holding back? My wife’s former girlfriend would request that I refrain from cumming after she reached her orgasm, as a way of proving how deeply I care for her. It was about showing that my affection wasn’t just transactional, driven only by the desire for release herself. While there were moments over time when she allowed me to finish, nothing stood out particularly. Still, having my wife manage my releases meant it didn’t quite feel like true chastity. The appeal lay in being fully erect under her hand while holding back despite a strong urge throughout my body—a clear display of devotion. This dynamic actually benefited my wife once her girlfriend departed at the weekend’s end.

For me now, wearing a cage feels less about abstaining to prove love and more about control. Those whose key holders aren’t their primary sexual partners likely understand this distinction better than I do personally. To me, it represents a shift in power dynamics rather than just an emotional gesture.