Female led relationships discussion

Okay - it took me a while to gather the courage and build up the nerve before writing this post… This is actually a thread I started because of my reaction to another one: The “Mistress and Lucy…” discussion found here Why not just reply in that existing thread? Well, if you want to know why - or understand why I feel compelled to bring my perspective into a different setting - You will need to visit the linked thread and then work your way through my comments here… And Then I hope you will agree… Here we go: I am still somewhat of a newcomer in many ways, but I have traveled quite far already, both in general life, within the chastity lifestyle, and right here on CM. And I trust CM to be fair… People who know me - around here - will say that I try to keep ethics high,- and that I do my best to remain polite, gentle and fair - accepting that this lifestyle comes in many flavors, and that not everyone can be judged by a single universal scale. Having said that I have also spoken up when someone seems to turn chastity into a competition- when objectives like: Who has been locked up the longest? get promoted. I have also raised my voice when someone -in order to be seen as a “real sub” - gets caught up in a Cuckold fantasy, which they obviously don’t seem comfortable with once it becomes reality. And here we are again: When I look at You - @Mistress Deborah and @philfred and the transformation into Lucy, I feel the urge to speak out once more… I have read along about this upcoming transformation and now when I see the outcome, and notice the encouraging remarks this photo of You is receiving, - I hear a voice inside my head - asking - again and again: Is this path going to preserve and protect the integrity of the human being behind the mask? Or will it, like some incidents of cuckolding, damage a man’s inner self, never to be fully recovered? If that indeed is the case, then The Domme holds one hell of a responsibility, depriving a human beings ability to support themselves. And that goes even if the sub is in consent, because we all know that we subs can be brought to a place where we are so influenced by this lifestyle that we stop thinking rationally, and leave all reason and destiny to Our Domme - whoever she may be… As long as this liaison between a Domme and a sub continues to bloom, there should be no cause for alarm, - it appears… However - because of the inherent unbalanced division of power in the relationship, the Domme still holds the responsibility for the well being of the sub - even in the long run, - and after a relationship ends for any reason - despite the fact that the path chosen has been taken with consent. I must underline - before anyone holds me in contempt - that I do not accuse anyone here specifically; I just raise a flag, for everyone to act with caution - extreme caution, especially those currently in charge of another human beings destiny and self preservation. ( Sorry - but I do hope my written English makes sense, being a Dane after all) It could very well be that I am barking up the wrong tree here, - and frankly I am hardly barking - just feeling a little uneasy And If - what I have to say - does not fit this “case” perfectly - Im sure it will fit just fine in other cases. When I read the comments to the photo - most of them flat out cheering - I recalled a world famous Danish tale by H.C. Andersen: The Emperor’s New Clothes - where only a small kid dares to tell the obvious truth, that nobody else wants to say out loud: that the emperor is stark naked, - that his new clothes do not exist, - he has been the victim of a scam… So dear @Mistress Deborah and @philfred - I don’t see what others speak so highly about. I see something being taken to the extreme - for the benefit of Who? Tell me in all honesty: Do You really see a happy face on Lucy? I don’t! I do understand masks, -they are simply that: Masks. They do not attempt to impersonate another human being, as this grotesque outfit does. In my book there must be - even for Dommes - limits to what level of transformation/modifications you can force your sub to undertake, in order to please your own desires. I’m No Sissy, no maid, but hopefully a devoted husband, having surrendered to my wife, my love.. But I hold nothing against Males wanting to wear and dress up like females. It is not that which triggers my reaction. Whatever rocks your boat. Some even look so damn hot!:-) Only if you are not entering this transformation for your own pleasure, but are being put into this position by the force - or just desire - of a Domme, I think it is something different. Then I think certain limits should apply. I Do not hear that You @philfred crave this level of feminization? I hear that this is something that You @Mistress Deborah has orchestrated? Am I right or am I dead wrong, - or does it even matter…? **My point is that the one in power holds a heavy responsibility - to preserve and protect the subs inner self and integrity, no matter how much - in or out of the heat of the moment - the sub wants to give it all up.

In fear of being relegated from CM, I will now jump back into bed, to my beloved wife, Who wants me to be who I am: Her Devoted, loving, totally surrendered human being, - but also A human being that she can count on, to protect and provide, and so much more. She loves me just the way I am, and She does not - as far as I know - want to change that one single bit… So no silicone mask for me tonight;-)