Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

My wife used to unlock me during sex so that she could edge me over and over again. I also liked it like that. Last week we had an accident. While she was just holding my penis, I started to ejaculate. It caught us both by surprise. I always tell her when I am near an orgasm and did not feel I was that time. I guess it was the perfect ruined ejaculation. Lots of fluid but only a burning sensation in my urethra. No feeling of pleasure at all. As usual she fed my cum to me and then called it quits for the night as she did not want to risk me having a full orgasm. Since then, she is now gun shy or should I say, penis-shy. She wants me locked up all the time, even during sex. She is afraid that I will cum and she wants to hold off until Lent is over, before she lets me cum. It will be my Easter gift, she said. Better than a chocolate Easter bunny, I guess. The problem is that I really miss our edging sessions. I miss the feel of her hand and mouth on my penis. Now it is just some nipple and ball torture to make me respond like I did when she teased me. My wife needs to hear me moan to get aroused and she does not care how she does that. I used to feel sexually satisfied when we had sex when I was unlocked. Now it just seems to be all for her benefit. Then again, I guess that is what it is all about though. I read posts about guys being locked up from anywhere from a few days to a few months or longer. I am wondering if that means being locked during sex or not? I imagine if the KH likes PIV sex, she would unlock you but from her point of view, why unlock your penis if she does not need it? Let me know how it works for you as we are still exploring and doing trial and error. Some of you have a lot of experience. I have experience but not in Chastity.:)

We have sexual activity about 2 times a week. Sometimes I have to give her oral sex till her satisfaction & sometimes PIV sex. Obviously she unlocks me ONLY when she wants PIV sex. There again she unlocks me after a long T&D and foreplay, just before insertion; because once I'm unlocked, I take no time to ejaculate. When it's oral, the question of my release does not arise at all.