Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I realize that most men claim women hold the power over when they reach an orgasm. Still, I don’t think men are entirely voiceless in this matter. If a husband is denied release for a year despite wanting it weekly, things won’t work out smoothly. The man needs to have some input into the decision. That’s how my wife and I handle it. I let her know what duration feels right for me, and she can grant release a bit earlier or later than that window without stretching too far. It keeps me wondering just enough.

How does your situation look? Do you men feel you have any say in the length of your chastity period, even if only during those initial limit discussions? And what about the ladies here? Do you simply keep your husband or sub locked for as long as you desire without asking him?

My wife, her girlfriends, and I always establish boundaries for our fetish play. Then they ask me if I want them to extend those limits, and I usually agree. Once we’ve set up the general structure of our dynamic, I slip into submissive mode unless called upon, or take charge from below if one of them struggles with the gear or doesn’t get the result she wants safely. When they feel confident handling things independently, I step back. It might not be every man’s dream of submission, but it gave us all wonderful sexual experiences where everyone enjoyed themselves. Being naturally less submissive by nature, I view submitting as a willing yield to a woman, though I can shift into the alpha role when needed. This approach sustained our marriage for ages despite various outside partners. Success speaks for itself.:)