Kept Sealed During Intimacy?

My wife is bi and before we started chastity play 11 years ago, she had a steady girlfriend for 30 years who lived or visited us on and off. The issue is that my wife has no use for my penis. In my old age it is very small, cannot get erect and basically cannot orgasm unless a lot of time and BDSM stuff is done. So she just ignores it and uses her vibrator to have very intense multiple orgasms while she doing CBT because she needs me to moan in order to reach her orgasm. Just wondering if any of you have a key holder who has no use for your penis and keep it locked up all the time. No more erections or orgasms. Sex is truly for her pleasure only. She got this way from her girlfriend who was into BDSM and liked to hurt me until I moaned in pain. She only had intercourse with me 3 times in 30 years and that was at the beginning. After that I could not stay hard and fell out of her. She used to ask me if I came or not because she could not feel a thing. My wife seldom wanted vaginal intercourse for the same reason but would allow me anal once in a while to perform her wifely duty.:) She too stopped all forms of penetration and sex was between her and her girlfriend while I was told what to do to assist them in obtaining their orgasms. I did not mind because I got to watch and was into BDSM made to do all sorts of painful and disgusting things to amuse them. I wish this was just a made up story but it is not. In my early twenties we wife swapped, did soft swinging and had threesomes with all of her girlfriends. I also had some girlfriends of my own and we had a don’t ask, don’t tell policy which worked well for us. I think she liked that I was getting my sex elsewhere. For us, our fetishes were always our lifestyle, but confined to the bedroom. Outside of the sexual arena we appeared to be a conservative married couple with my wife’s girlfriend living with us for various reasons liker divorce, being close to her old parents, school, etc.. Yet threesomes were our regular sex and we were stoned every night along with some coke at times. We never went online to even find out the name of what we were doing. When I asked my wife at the age of 62 if sh4e though of herself as bi, she said that she never thought about it. For us it was just our normal life, the only one we had since we were 20 years old. So I often wonder if there are others who have girlfriends or wives who lock them up and have no use for their penis? Some say I have the perfect key holder because she has no use for my penis and does not think I need to orgasm. She used to let me orgasm a few times a year but since I got ED and take too long to cum, she doers not bother anymore. She uses her vibrator every night by hertself at bed timer. Says she gets better sleep that way. When I ask to cum she just says I can fuck her knowing that I cannot. She is not interested in giving me a handjob that lasts for half an hour or oral sex because girls do it much better and she has much better orgasms with her vibrators. She has several, each costing over a hundred dollars each. Does your key holder feel you need to be unlocked and given an orgasm? Is she into penises or just denying you in a femdom relationship? Never ran into another couple into chastity. Knew people into every fetish most people can name, but none into chastity and orgasm denial. They all wanted orgasms and as many as they could get. We cannot be the only ones with key holders who are not interested in our penises or orgasms. Long distance key holding or long distance relationship might qualify for what we have. I doubt that we are unique so let me know what your chastity lifestyle is like? Cuckolding prehaps? Our girlfriend got marred in the middle of her relationship with us. She married a cuckold she met online whose wife ran off with a lover. She successfully separated her marriage from out poly triad. We never met her son or saw her home. She just said that she had an agreement with her new husband and not to ask questions. We met her husband a few times and on vacation he would hand her over to us and just ask that she end the night in his bed. Funny that we never thought anything of our liferstylr until we reached old ager and found vanilla friends. What is your chastity lifestyle like?