Shepherdsflock A Journey into Self-Control and Chastity for Me and My Wife

I recently told my wife that I’ve struggled with masturbation for a long time. While some might say it’s fine, neither of us feels that way.

This habit was affecting how intimate we could be. Since I travel three to four days a week for work, those are usually when the urge hits hardest. After admitting my problem and telling her I wanted to quit, I managed one full day before giving in while away from home. Desperate to overcome this, I looked for solutions.

I found a site called (not trying to break forum rules by endorsing it, just thought it might help others). I read through the testimonials; several men were in similar situations. The Holy Trainer caught my eye and seemed worth trying.

I ordered it on Thursday. Knowing where I’d be staying for work on Monday, I had it shipped directly to the hotel. It was waiting when I arrived.

I opened the box, read the brief instructions, and put it on. I worried about comfort, but it’s actually quite nice. Perhaps the size fit my anatomy well; often, I forget it’s there. I pulled up my pants and checked the mirror. Completely discreet. No one can tell I’m wearing it.

With plans to return home Thursday afternoon, I took the keys to a local FedEx office and shipped them to my wife for delivery that same day. She doesn’t know yet, and I hope she reacts well.

I suppose I’m quite brave. Reading posts here, it seems few people jump straight into 24/7 chastity. I didn’t overthink it; I just really wanted to stop masturbating.

For stopping masturbation, I give this two thumbs up. I really did want to masturbate on Monday and Tuesday, but with the cage on, it seemed impossible. It feels very secure. I just had to tough it out and accept that those days are done.

There are a few things you notice immediately. I actually enjoy wearing it for two reasons: it prevents my glans from rubbing against my underwear (which is annoying) and keeps everything positioned correctly. It’s like a bra for the penis. Peeing while sitting feels odd at first; you catch yourself walking toward the urinal before realizing that option is gone.

Hygiene required some creativity. I’ve learned to twist toilet paper and push it through the holes after peeing to absorb moisture. I also use cotton swabs twice a day to clean deep inside.

So far, three days in the Holy Trainer, and seven days without masturbation. Things are going well. I’m slightly nervous about telling my wife tomorrow. I know she’ll be kind, but I suspect she might find it strange.