She's My Keyholder Now—How Do I Help Her Embrace Dominance?

Hi everyone, I feel fortunate that my wife of eleven years has embraced my proposal to weave chastity into our daily existence. We’ve always dabbled in kink, but it slipped away after we had our daughter five years back. Although we enjoyed some BDSM, my spouse grew weary of playing a role that didn’t reflect her authentic self. This past January, I shared my desire to introduce chastity play, and she readily agreed. I really am the lucky one here. It took some time to dial in the sizing and other details, but I’ve found a comfortable setup with the CB 6000 cage, settling into a rhythm of five days locked up followed by one day off. Initially, I wanted longer periods between releases, but those often left me with tender spots. Now, I prefer this five-day cycle. By the end of it, my horniness is constant, making that single freedom day feel particularly agonizing when we return to lock mode. It also reinforces for both of us that the cage symbolizes her authority—even when removed, she still dictates my release schedule. She’s growing accustomed to wielding control and using her power, though not constantly yet. I provide back massages and manually bring her to orgasm, or sometimes orally if fortune favors me while I’m still in the cage. That aspect of our dynamic is something I really enjoy. Teasing and denial are also becoming part of it, which appeals greatly to me, although my preference would be for this every day. The tricky part for me is that I’d like her to lean more into the femdom side and have me serve her with greater frequency. My concern is that I might be overwhelming her with expectations, effectively submitting from a position of neediness rather than true submission. I sense she could really appreciate the power dynamic this game offers, but how do we get there without being too pushy? Does anyone else have advice? What strategies helped you transform your mostly vanilla wife into a dominant figure who delights in making her partner suffer? Luckyboy