Plain and Simple Women-Lead Marriage Discussion

I’m looking for some thoughts here, especially if you fall into this category. Domina and submissive dynamics. Shoe worship. Foot adoration. Adoring other body parts too. Whips, chains, and cuffs. Riding crops. Flails. Dungeons. Cuckolding. Men in bondage. Multiple male milking stations resembling a dairy barn to collect large amounts of cum. CBT. Leather and latex materials. A mix of fantasy and reality. This is all part of my daily routine as a kinky erotic Romance editor, where women write most of the novels. When I remove my eccentric editorial hat and put aside my research tools—Miss BethK has never really wanted to pick them up or read them; she hasn’t even finished any of the books I’ve edited—I slip into my role as a middle-aged vanilla husband in a female-led relationship (FLR). My work as an editor guided me toward this chaste lifestyle. Male chastity showed up in one of the femdom stories I was editing, which prompted me to research it on the side, leading us here today. We started by playing around with chastity, and forty days ago things got serious when the lock snapped shut and my wife took the key. Not a single orgasm since then. Miss BethK essentially leads this menagerie of ours in our little prairie house, and I mostly follow along. It works well for us. While everyone in our small village of 128 knows about my kinky Romance editing work, they don’t know much about my new chaste habits or how much control Miss Beth really has here. (She is quite the political force around these parts, having successfully campaigned to save our Post Office from closing and securing a seat on the library board:geek: about a year after we moved in—the village council might be her next target). I just spent an hour or so writing what I think is my longest post for our blog, explaining how I ended up in a mostly vanilla female-led marriage (aside from male chastity). My research into various kinks (it’s work, not adventure), plus my private browsing of the Web while working, has shown me many FLRs where women rule over their domain like personal estates. However, I haven’t found much written about truly vanilla FLRs. So I wrote a post covering that gap in knowledge. Since our blog is making waves (it currently has two followers), this important information is now available for you to see. Are there really no other vanilla female-led relationships or marriages besides ours? Or does the nature of being so plain and simple make reading about them feel just too ordinary? Is anyone else out there living like us? Or are even vanilla FLRs destined to drift inexorably into the vast realm of femdom dynamics? Even the “publish” button on this edit screen says “submit”: lots of social cues here… . Whether your FLR (or desire for one) is vanilla or not, I’d love to hear from you about how you reached where you are today. Perhaps I am feeling a bit down: our blog only started in June (though my female-led marriage is nearing five years now); surely there must be more people who are curious or have experience they want to share? I don’t consider myself a pioneer in vanilla kink.

• James.