Silence Spoke Volumes

While Male Chastity is distinct for every pair, it’s fascinating how many guys on this board often feel they could have penned each other’s updates—particularly regarding their wives’ level of involvement.

When we began six weeks ago, Melissa was an eager participant. She even enjoyed discussing the subject with me. Then I messed up. I ended up pushing her for attention (much like in our earlier years) until a major argument erupted. Here is where improved communication turned things around. Earlier on, Melissa had shared some thoughts and feelings from early in our marriage. She explained that she felt so relaxed because of the MC. Well, during the fight, I used those very points against her. Now, two weeks later, she remains hurt because everything was going well for us, yet I turned her own words into weapons…so while she is still committed to MC, she waits (nervously) to see if I slip back into old habits.

Of course, I apologized. For the past fortnight, I have been demonstrating that although I acted like a jerk then, I genuinely want to change and MC is aiding me in doing so. We even made love since the fight and had one T&D session, confirming we are both still invested.

It falls on me to bring up the topic again now, and I know how disheartening it can be when only one person wants to talk about it. Still, there is progress. Yesterday afternoon she asked out of nowhere when my sizing rings would arrive. This sparked a conversation about how they function and how long until the JB arrives. It was unexpected and delightful for me.

A bit later in the day, we were both relaxing on our bed when she asked me to finger her. I was surprised and thrilled. So there I sat cross-legged between her legs using all my fingers to bring her to an orgasm. Afterward, I kissed her pubic hair and rested my cheek there until she got up to put her panties back on.

Now here is the really appealing part for me: she didn’t say a single word after it was done. She left the bedroom for a few minutes and when she returned, she started flipping through her catalogs. I lay there growing more aroused by watching her do what I had encouraged—take pleasure without guilt or worry about reciprocation. She came; I did not. She didn’t even mention it. Not one word was spoken. It was hot.

Later she admitted she felt a bit nervous. She was waiting for me to get annoyed and pressure her for something in return. But I didn’t. I told her I won’t. Just knowing that she felt good and enjoyed herself was enough.

So, we face similar challenges, but we are navigating them slowly. Michael