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We have been at this for about eighteen months and we have a lot of rules. What we do, what we do not, who is told, how it is arranged, what happens afterwards. We are, if anything, over-organised people.
Two weekends ago we were most of the way through an evening and I realised, quite calmly, that I wanted it to stop. Not because anything was wrong. Nobody had done anything. I just wanted the evening to be over.
And I had absolutely no idea how to say so.
Everything I could think of would have required a conversation in front of somebody else, or would have landed as an accusation, or would have needed me to explain a feeling I could not have explained at the time. So I said nothing and the evening ran its course and it was fine, and then I was quiet for two days and my wife thought she had done something.
Talking about it since, we have found the gap. We have rules for everything except stopping.
So: does anybody have an actual mechanism? A word, a signal, something. And how do you make it usable, given that using it will inevitably feel like ruining somebody’s evening?